And here comes the text - a låångt post: Two sisters with strong wills can easily end up with conflict. The blogger Tyra Sjöstedt and crime writer Sophie Sarenbrant got tired of all the misunderstandings and decided to boost the relationship by attending sibling therapy. Everything groom started as a joke. After a protracted conflict that took a lot of energy from both of us that I just lifted me out of the question:
Tyra just laughed, but quickly replied that it was a very good idea. So we booked ourselves on a 90-minute clash of therapists Life Astrom Crown and Pekka Talamo as we had been recommended. Afterwards we went and joked about it all and what we actually had given us into.
But at the same time we had gone a long time in different parts and wondered what it would take for us to communicate with each other without one gets stressed and irritated and the others feel run over or hurt. We live two different lives - I like the sedated, groom life-juggling mother of small children who have no strength to spare (in which case I wash) and Tyra busy blogger and entrepreneur who all jerks and pulls in. Just trying to be viewed over a lunch was doomed. After shilly-shallying back and forth, groom often via sms, could end up there was no lunch at all. And both were disappointed.
It has been eight years between me and Tyra and we have two completely different images groom of our upbringing. When Tyra was born I was the one who drove her around groom in a stroller at home on the farm. I took great responsibility for her and my other sister and wanted to teach them everything I could, for example to ride. At age 15, I moved away from home to attend school in another city, and since then I have not been in their everyday lives. But the big sister responsibility has been around anyway - and certainly a feeling that I have a responsibility to educate instead groom of just being a sister. In the years that have passed, we have kept in touch, but also realized that we are quite different and difficult to put ourselves in each other's different life situations.
Therapy The day came and as usual when we two should do something together, groom it was not quite as we had imagined. First and foremost, we kept on burning our time because we did not find the right address. Pekka stood and looked out the window and wondered sure if we even would show up. Five minutes late, we arrived - Tyra on my bike (because she had sore feet) and I jogging beside, still with bike helmet on. We all laughed at the situation. But all the fun transformed into a seriously when we were sitting opposite each other in the therapy couch breathlessly. Suddenly, tears close. Now we have gone twice for a total of three hits and we both agree that it is the best we have done.
"Before the therapy groom I had not particularly high expectations, but felt the most that it was a fun thing. I never had any thought that it might actually help us. I have always loved my sister groom and we have had good contact and seen often, but sometimes it has become unnecessary misunderstandings that are just right misunderstanding. I was a little skeptical about the therapists could really make us think or feel differently when I already felt so good about my sister. But the experience there in the room was something of a shock.
When you sit where you have to really listen and perhaps can not cancel when one wants to explain himself. It is important groom to listen, absorb and maybe think again. It pulled me great lessons from. The therapists managed to get emotions from both me and Sofie we never shown together groom before - and in just 90 minutes. I got to see another side of my sister and quite fast it felt like we were on our way to becoming groom more like two friends than siblings. groom
Sofie has always been there since I was little and I have great respect for her, looks up to her and dare not question. As little sister feels as I do not have as much to give. During the therapy we ended up more and more on the same level as opposed to Sofie was three steps higher up than me.
Afterward, I felt a big difference. Now I can be myself. It's good to have a big sister role, but now I am 24 years not 7, and we can actually have the exchange of each other. I have more to give, and it feels like Sofie also feel it. Now I see all the possibilities! Partly in the job since we are in the same industry, but also private - Sofie is a new friend and it feels amazing. And then it was really fun to hear the therapists confirm what potential there is - if we find each other, so together we would be able to lift each other to new heights. "
- I was too much big sister "My hope was that we could learn to communicate better with each other, but to misunderstand and misinterpret every word. But mostly, I took the planned therapy as a "fun thing" and therefore did not have such high expectations. For who could help us, as well?
As soon as the door to the therapists' room was closed and we sat
